Fear at the time of going from home

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I have some fear at the time of going to any place from home.

Dr. Saul Pereira

Psychologist

It looks like you are a home bird and have gotten used to being at home and find it safe, perhaps. When we have to go out there is some pressure about safety, and not getting lost, and the fear of change, and that you have to face unfamiliar surroundings, and that you have to take care of yourself from danger. 

All this can be avoided if you just stayed at home! but we cannot live just rooted in the safety of home. You have to venture out and it is akin to adventure at a far lower scale and also to creativity: you can only achieve something by stepping out of your comfort zone. 

Perhaps you come from a family that has found all its pleasures and growth in the safety of its four walls. Something like an introversive family. 

What you can do is challenge this fear by willfully stepping of your comfort zone but accompanied by another person whom you trust, and over a period of time, as you gain confidence you may extend the boundaries to longer trips and eventually do it on your own. If the fear is still crippling you may work with a counselor and deal with that feeling to liberate yourself from the constrictions created by you: it is called desensitization. 

Sometimes you may want to equip yourself with some defensive weapons not because someone will attack you but just to feel the confidence that you can defend yourself in case of such a contingency. 

You cannot continue living like this and the earlier you resolve it, the better for a lot of reasons. 

Some day you will be married and will have to take your wife and kids out, and you cannot be seen to chicken out for not resolving a simple matter, which is actually based on an unjustified fear that the world is a dangerous place!