Must-Do Ways Of Coping With A Break Up

4 Must-Do Ways Of Coping With A Break Up

Ms. Samiksha Jain

Advanced Skills in Counselling, BSIC, Advanced Trainee of Transactional Analysis, DCS, Hypnotherapist

Psychologist • 537 People helped • 8 Year experience

4 Must-Do Ways Of Coping With A Break Up

Breakups can be devastating. The non-availability of a person you loved dearly can give rise to emotions of anger, helplessness, emptiness, frustration and sometimes even guilt. Coping with a break up is extremely difficult for most people. So what is the best way of dealing with it? Read on...

1. Live For Yourself

Whether it’s your sleeping habit, or tastes in food or even music preferences, a relationship calls for a compromise in either or all of these. Since you’re free now, you can indulge in everything that you had to give up on. Even if it’s something as simple as peanuts, which gave him or her allergies, you should indulge in it by the handful. Go out; don’t keep yourself cooped up at home. Meet new people, form new bonds with the people you like and do whatever makes you happy.

2. Vent Out

Call your friends or family and share the pent up feelings with them. Friends and family are sympathetic, and can act as a shoulder to cry on. However, make sure you are smart about your venting. It’s pretty easy to fall into the habit of crying and drinking, laying in your bed, wallowing in your misery and ignoring all your responsibilities. Venting helps, but not at the cost of the rest of your life. Make sure you aren’t succumbing to complete self-pity as this will only add to your depression.

3. Exercise

Exercising serves two purposes. One, it helps you get back in shape so that you feel confident and healthy. Two, exercise has been proven to reduce stress, by bringing about the release of the feel-good hormones, endorphins, in your body. Regular workouts will increase adrenaline and dopamine in your system. Being mood-enhancers, these chemicals work to make you happy and keep you stress-free.

4. Cut-off Contact

Many people say that they want to remain friends after breaking up, but that is mostly not a good idea. So what do you do? Try cutting off complete contact for a while, at least till you heal. Whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Gmail, or Pinterest, you need to deny yourself avenues to check out either your ex-partner or your past life with them. Avoid talking on calls and texts too. Get rid of their stuff in your house. If you have a song that reminds you of the time spent with your ex-partner, don’t listen to it in the immediate aftermath of the breakup. If you can’t do this yourself, ask a friend to help keep you on track or even do it for you.

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